A divorce, like your marriage and life, has certain do’s and do not’s. An divorce lawyer would tell you to follow these guidelines. They can save you time and money and avoid a lot of stress:
Do speak with an experienced divorce lawyer that handles family law matters before you file for divorce.
Be careful of hiring general practice lawyers who, in addition to divorce, handle personal injury, criminal defense, bankruptcy, estate planning, immigration or other areas of law. A general practitioner who only handles family law matters on a part time basis may not have the time to dedicate to your divorce case or the ability to give your case the personal attention you need.
Do not hire a paralegal or non-attorney to handle your divorce in any way.
Heed this instruction whether it is to complete paperwork or assist with mediation, unless you do not have children, do not have any assets, do not have or have very few debts and have a very short marriage without any support issues. Paralegals or “document preparation” companies are generally unqualified to handle divorces without direct and experienced divorce attorney supervision and the far majority of these non-attorneys have little to no attorney supervision by an experienced lawyer.
Do give family law mediation a chance. You have nothing to lose by attending mediation and everything to gain.
Consult with experienced divorce lawyers and mediators like Farzad Family Law and get perspective on what issues should resolve and what family law issues, if any, should be litigated. No matter what, you will walk out of mediation, even if you don’t resolve all of your family law issues, more informed and better prepared.
Do not use your child or children as leverage and do not allow your spouse to do so.
Few things upset Family Law Judges like parents that use the children as leverage on support or other issues. Custody and visitation should always be focused on the children’s best interest. Trying to increase or decrease a parent’s time solely to reduce or increase support is a tactic that will backfire and could result in the offending parent’s loss of custody, both legal and physical. That is one reason resolving your divorce case in mediation can have a very positive impact on your children.
Do talk to your divorce lawyer about your budget.
You hire an attorney for a service. Unless you have infinite funds to spend, you have to be honest with your divorce lawyer about your budget, which include your monthly expendable income, that of your spouse and what you can “afford” to spend on fees. At Farzad Family Law, our divorce lawyers make this very easy on you because we will initiate budgetary discussions with you and ensure we have a clear understanding of your needs and ability to pay as well as that of your spouse.
Do not get caught up in your personal feelings about your spouse to the point where it dictates your decision making process.
Frustration, resentment, even anger are perfectly normal emotions before divorce, during and even after. However, the moment it controls what you do in your divorce case, things can go south. This is where the experience of a family law attorney is indispensable. We know what you are going through. We know how hard it is. We will help you achieve balance and clarity. Your divorce case doesn’t have to be war or hell. We’ll show you how you can get to the end, in peace.
Contact Farzad Family Law for a case strategy consultation. We will get your divorce case started on the right track.